Do you get upset a lot by your peers? Do you have a difficult time to communicate with your peers, even when you're not anxious? If you do, believe me you're not alone. Adolescence is plagued by much anxiety and hardship.
Adolescence can be such a difficult time for a girl especially. You need to learn how to express yourself in a power and yet calm manner. During your early teen years, it may be very difficult to express yourself calmly. Most of your emotions may be raw and out of control. This can make it difficult to speak your mind and stay strong when needed. However, you must do so in order to feel empowered and authentic.
Here are a few tips to ensure you remain calm when you have to speak to your peers who have made you really anxious and angry.
1. Don't worry about how people might react when you speak your mind. Expect that your peers will react negatively when you assert yourself. However, you have the right to say what you want to say. Just assert your needs confidently and don't worry about the rest.
2. Don't let aggressive peers intimidate you. There are many ways for our peers to intimidate you. Sometimes, they raise their voice. Other times they glare at you. If your peers do any of these things, just pull your shoulders back, stand tall, and say precisely what's on your mind.
3. Speak up so that others can hear you clearly, without yelling. You can do so by practising your assertive voice when you are all by yourself in your room in front of a mirror. The more practise you get the better. But whatever you do, don't yell back if someone yells at you. Yelling doesn't make your peers hear you any better. In fact, it can cause them to tune you out. Enunciate clearly, using a convincing tone of voice.
4. Don't let your emotions take over. If you are angry, take some time to acknowledge your anger by telling the other person that you'll talk about this some other time. Just remove yourself from the situation, take a few deep breaths and relax. You can be in control of your emotions, one situation at a time by practising proper and healthy behaviours.
It can difficult to effectively express yourself during your adolescent years. However, by learning to be calm in the midst of chaos you can empower yourself to be the best that you can be and to develop into the unique and beautiful human being that you were meant to be.
Irene S. Roth is a Freelance Writer, Author and Editor. Ms. Roth predominantly writes for kids, teens and tweens about Empowerment. She has an empowerment book published for teens entitled "Seasons of Empowerment for Adolescent Girls". She is also in the process of writing another nonfiction book for teens entitled "The Seven Habits of Emotionally Mature Adolescents."
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